Dear Potential Surrogate,
First and foremost, THANK YOU from the bottom of our hearts for considering a journey with us. There truly aren't words big enough to express what the gift you are considering would mean to a family like ours.
We have been happily married for nearly 6 years and share our lives with our energetic standard poodle. After a devastating car crash just two months after our wedding, Sarah was required to undergo multiple surgeries, the last of which was a hysterectomy. These challenges made us determined to build an exceptional life together that was fulfilling and joyful. We love to travel to beautiful places from dipping our toes into the sparkling blue waters of the Caribbean to eating pastries while strolling through Europe. We also love spending time with family and friends, cheering on our favorite sports teams, and taking countless walks with our dog.
On Halloween 2025, we spent time with friends handing out candy to all the kids in the neighborhood. Watching all the sweet, costumed kids trick or treating, Sarah felt a pull she couldn't ignore. She could feel in her bones that the family wasn't complete and wouldn't be until there was a little one to trick or treat with us.
All our time during the following holiday season was spent talking about the possibility of having a family. We discussed everything, including the logistics of surrogacy, updating our home to ensure it had a perfect nursery, balancing our work life to dedicate focus on the baby, and our dreams for the future. Sarah dreamed of having a little one riding a scooter as we took our afternoon walks with our dog and Taylor dreamed of teaching a son or a daughter the traditions of college football and the value of being a good teammate.
We worked hard over the course of six months and three rounds of IVF to bank three genetically tested embryos. Through that entire process, we continued dreaming. We delighted in watching our niece learn and experience the world through our frequent FaceTime calls and visits. The whole world was brand new to her, and we loved how she soaked everything up. We dreamed of the places we'd travel with our own little one and the light in their young eyes experiencing the world for the first time. As our niece learned to say our names, we thought of the joy we'd feel when we first heard "Mama" and "Dada" from our own baby.
We also thought a lot about you. We were awed by the thought that someone would partner with us to help build a family. We look forward to building a team with you and your support system, because we know your role in this journey is so important. We thought of the texts we might exchange when the baby kicks you for the first time, and how excited we'd be for that experience. We thought of the gratitude we'd experience during each moment of pregnancy--the gratitude we already feel that we are connecting through this letter. We thought of how lucky we are that someone may be willing to show such commitment. There truly aren't adequate words to express how thankful we are for you.
The generosity you are showing through your willingness to help another family grow is truly inspiring. Whether you choose us or another family, know that we are so grateful to you for sharing so much of yourself in order to make dreams come true. We are looking forward to hearing about your experience of pregnancy--the good and the bad, because all of it is part of our journey together.
We are so looking forward to getting to know you, learning why you chose to be a carrier, and what is important to you throughout this process. It's critical to us to learn about you so that we can respect your boundaries and grow together. We know that this journey will be an exercise in trust, and we hope that you can grow to trust us like we will trust you. We are looking forward to building that foundation of trust on openness, honesty, and hopefully lots of smiles and laughter.
With our sincere thanks,
S & T
